While planning for the big day over the last few months, I kept asking myself several times during the planning process what I wanted the overall theme to be. From meeting up with various designers for the outfits and realizing that being specific for the desired outcome was IMPORTANT as opposed to using vague description like “classy & simple” (well, because I realized those definition to some designers mean a whole world of difference), I nearly ruined my cheongsam (aka. the evening gown) when a very fickle me kept contradicting on what I wanted. First I would say I wanted a ‘traditional yet westernized with a twist (huh??)’, next I would say ‘modern yet retain old Shanghai charm’, it was disastrous! And when I finally realized what I really wanted (and not just a combination snapshot of every damn cheongsam I saw), I was determined to stick to that all the way.
It wasn’t till 2-weeks ago that I started going full-steam on the wedding preps, ensuring that I met and spoke to the necessary people involved in making the Big day a special one – after being disappointed by my lackluster attitude.
As I sat myself through a list of to-dos, realistic expectations also started to surface. Luke & myself never had a thorough discussion of what we wanted in a wedding, except that we wanted it to be happy, memorable and relaxed. Who didn’t? But even that came with a realistic price. Things weren’t just going to work out on their own. And I came to terms that I had to do something about it instead of just talking if there was a desired outcome.
Soon it boiled down to details. No surprise that I was the more difficult one, while Luke simply went with the flow – it didn’t matter as much to him if the flowers or the invitation cards color scheme didn’t match. He was in for a pleasant surprise though, when I started presenting him various designs of our wedding invitation cards within the week with the different colour schemes, until we found a ‘common ground’ in blooms & butterflies – which I felt represented us aptly – me and the whimsical garden theme, and him with the laidback, vintage color combi scheme of apple-green and creamy-peach. He also offered to help in any way he could thereafter, calling me twice a day just to check on my mood progress, or making a point to go shoe shopping and giving his point-of-view on some of the cocktail dresses, just so that I knew he cared. At least he was trying. 😀
We went to have a look-see at the church venue and met up with those involved over the weekend. While I was tad disappointed with the many and messy requirements to adhere to, including not being able to source for our own professional florist and leaving it to the hands of assigned volunteers (brrr!) who was on the complete opposite plane of thoughts during the discussion of what we wanted, or having to speak to different parties for the same job? I had to keep in mind that the challenge was to work within our means, and rely on my trusted troop to oversee and ensure that everything was going as planned since I wouldn’t have a chance to see if until the WALK DOWN THE AISLE (jitters, jitters). It would have been ideal to solemnize near an ocean or a ‘garden of eden’ replica…but that’s not our wedding story to tell.
My 1st bridal gown fitting went absolutely well today, apart from the creases I made on the bustier with my fat tummy – which I am working on reducing, Kenji said there wasn’t a need to alter it yet, since most brides do lose weight nearer to the day. He did assure me that he would loosen the corset if it was still tight by the 2nd fitting, and I was pleased with managing the 3.5 inch heels which meant that the lace had to be altered to fall longer, nearer to the floor. It was tempting to look around and see the many new pieces that had emerged since my last visit to the shop a few months ago – but I did my best to stay focus and satisfied with my gown.
The next 2 months is not going to be an easy ride, but I’m quite sure it’ll pass like a flash of light with all the busy activities. And yes, I will do my best to enjoy the process. Easier said than done, but I’ll try.