the baby thing

It’s starting to get to me that almost every gathering I’ve been attending recently seems to have at least one announcement of someone expecting. The most recent being one which ensued a comment along the lines of “oh, and they got married later than you guys!”

Don’t get me wrong – I’m happy for the couple when they share their joy. But when questions start directing our way, it can get a little irritating, especially when we’re quite the newly weds (8 mths into marriage). And while I know whatever said was all in jest, and that our friends love us as we are and have been utterly encouraging in showering us with advice like “enjoy your holidays while you can”, “enjoy honeymoon a little more”, it somehow bugs me. Why the hurry, because everyone else is having it?
This ain’t some IT bag, IT car, IT property or IT destination. This is a lifetime commitment to ourselves & God, and we trust in letting things happen according to His time & plan. We’ve been doing so (trusting in God) for almost every activity in our r/ship such as the trips and the wedding; each time not being mentally unprepared but ready to savour the joy instead. Ready for what lies ahead.
So, to the curious, our reply remains the same: we’re not particular trying very hard for now, nor are we rejected any lovely surprises that may spring in the coming year. I am also very appreciative of the husband, my in-laws and family for not adding any pressure. It helps a deal.

Perhaps the best consolation for this is that the husband & his friends are indeed at the family planning stage. While me and my friends are at the peak of our lives. Being at different stages of our lives commands different wants, and understandably for me to be stuck in a chart of a mid-30 chap can be a mismatch of priorities. I don’t get to see his bunch too often so I guess dealing with this baby thing once a while is still pretty manageable.