14 June 2008 – What a beautiful day it was.
Everything turned out classy, timeless, elegant and understated as we liked. We were dearly blessed with good weather, friendly professional crew, lovely friends and relatives who went the extra mile, abundance of love from many and plentiful of goodies and presents. I could even hear the angels rejoice as we said our vows and got united as one.
I was also told by many of our guests that we looked really carefree, radiant, without a care or worry. And for that I would like to thank everyone who helped run this beautiful affair, especially my dearest BR/BFF, my queenies, mum, relatives and most importantly, God – for without his blessings we wouldn’t have unknowingly radiate and ooze out such joy & happiness!
My prayers to not feel bloated and suffer from any PMS breakouts were also answered (trivial, I know!) Luke & I enjoyed ourselves so much it didn’t matter that he wasn’t in the best of health or I didn’t get enough sleep. It was imperfectly perfect.
On hindsight, we were also thankful & glad that we didn’t give any room for disagreements or unhappiness. Sure, some things did not pan out as planned (groom couldn’t wake up in time to meet banquet manager as he was ill, I forgot to bring stuff to the hotel etc.), we constantly reminded ourselves the desired outcomes we wanted for the wedding – to be a very lighthearted and happy affair. And that we were going to learn to let it go and let God take charge.
I was also blessed with a pair of angels – BFF and BR. They were such sweethearts, sleeping over and squeezing in my tiny bedroom for the night prior. The got me some dinner as I didn’t have time to eat the entire day while settling last minute stuff, helped me packed my bags, cleaned the home, went through guest list before shooing me off to bed at 1130pm (I couldn’t really sleep till 2am out of excitement). We had a mini-crisis when I realized that Luke hadn’t passed me my box of loose flowers for the hair-do but I knew that everything would be alright when the girlies promptly set off for Luke’s place in their PJs and settled that for me!
Here’s what else happened on the wedding day of 14 June 2008:
5am: Mum woke me up with a big warm hug. I was filled with anticipation & excitement despite a serious lack of sleep. It worried me for a bit that the dark eye circles and bags were probably going to be the highlight in all the photos but I also knew that I was in my makeup artists’ good hands. Plus, the perk-me-up-facials and eye masks helped tremendously that my MUA was surprised and asked what brand it was! While getting my hair blown dry, mum served me a pipping hot bowl of fish porridge to start my day and another bowl of bird’s nest! Juey Huey, my MUA teased that I was getting such diva treatment! “Once in a lifetime!”, I exclaimed 🙂
It wasn’t long before my videographer & photographer arrived and soon the clicking and filming began. It was all very exciting – being the centre of attention, a little overwhelming I must say, but nice. I was apprehensive initially, fearing that the mood between myself and the professional crew may be a little awkward, but it turned out really fun when we realized how much we could “click” with our similar sense of humour. The Bs, being their very loony selves, also contributed to plenty more of laughs!
An hour and half later (which honestly felt like minutes), Ning, Spanky, Kris, my godparents & godbro, Sam, Mabes, Zann, Cecilia, Galvin arrived at my place! Everyone was excited and busy cam-whoring with & without me. Hah! Mum and my grandma were also busy making sure our guests were comfy while getting their makeup done. The house was bustling with such joy & laughter.
One thing happened so quickly after the next. Before I knew it, the groom & his men arrived, sailed through the challenges with lots of cheating (so I heard), had to sing me a song out loud as his final task before coming through the door, and doing the traditional un-veiling and kissing of bride!
The next hour happened in a twinkle. We snapped some photos with my side of the family & friends, drank “tong shui” (loosely translated, sugar water) for prosperity, and headed over to Luke’s for our 1st tea ceremony session. Thankfully tea ceremony at his place was to his immediately family and so it was a rather short one. While the groom & the rest of his family got ready to go to the church for final rehearsals and to receive our guests, I took the perfect opportunity to cool down and strip out of the wedding gown. It was just so hot being in one! Oh boy, felt so good to cool down in my knickers, with darlings Ethel & Cecilia helping me to put my gown on and off me at least thrice with every urge to visit the loo!
It was 10.55am when the bridal car arrived at the entrance of the church. My heart was filled with butterflies – all excited that in a few minutes, we were going to be “officially” married! The car door opened, and as I stepped out, I could feel a huge veil of joy enveloping me. At that instant, I felt so ready, all prepared for the doors to open, to march in. I even forgot my concern of wobbling or tripping on my 3.5 inch heels. My mind was filled with nothing but joy – seeing the many smiley faces, realizing that so many guests were here to witness our beautiful matrimony – that meant a lot. At that moment, my initial laments of having such a long aisle to march in dissipated too. Every step I took as Pachabel’s Cannon in D was being played, was magical. The kiddies were perfect too. No tantrums, no confusion or sudden shyness from the multitude as the doors opened, but pure perfection & dedication in every step. I managed to take a peek at the floral deco along the aisle too. It was done the way I wanted it, and again I was blessed with such a wonderful florist (so you see, the earlier incident when the former florist played out on me was a big blessing in disguise).
We had a very lovely church service. There were booboos like Luke slipping the wedding ring on my wrong hand without me realizing while I forced his wedding band in on the wrong hand (before our videographer quickly whispered what was happening, oops), walked towards the wrong direction to sign the marriage certificate too. How’s that for a memorable ceremony indeed 🙂 Guests later told us during the reception that they teared during the bridal march-in & vows and shared how much they enjoyed our wedding service. It was good to know that they were literally sharing our joy!
Fast-forward 2 hours later, we were in the suite of Raffles Hotel Singapore getting ready for our wedding dinner. The Bo was getting as much rest as he could from not sleeping a wink the night before and from running a fever while I was busy going through with BR on the coordination of the dinner and getting ready with my 2nd makeup session with Juey Huey. She’s such a darling to work with and could giggle and talk about almost any and everything. She did such an amazing work on my canvas that I had a list of friends asking for her contact for their upcoming weddings after singing her praises.
6.45pm: We had a tea ceremony with my side of the family at Raffles Hotel prior to the wedding dinner celebration. I wore a fuchsia pink embroidery tea dress for the ceremony and loved the pop of color! Being “Bounapartes” along with lots of family chitter chatter, we started our tea ceremony late and I think Luke must have been overwhelmed serving about 30 cups of tea to my relatives!
My very awesome photographers Terry & Gino from OneEyeClick also suggested taking some creative + nostalgic shots in the Jubilee Hall Lounge before receiving our guests at the cocktail area. It was a very fun albeit short session doing all sorts of silly to serious poses.
When we got to the cocktail reception outside The Ballroom, we were astounded. Our band – 3 sessions – did such a great job entertaining our guests with their instrumental jazzy tunes while I managed to say Hi to some guests before I was dragged away (time check by Ethel) to change back into the wedding gown. Thank goodness for time check nannies because it was far too easy for me to get carried away. I was also grateful that I had the queenies taking charge of the reception, sorting the names out and escorting the guests to their respective tables. BR was also running about, ensuring that everything was running smoothly – so I have the biggest and deepest appreciation for her. I’m sure all of my helpers must have been feeling burnt-out from the early morning start yet it was very heartening to know how much I was loved and cared for through their gestures.
And for the first time, Luke & I marched into the Ballroom that evening as husband & wife. It felt so different from the church and I was actually more eager to start the evening than before. Luke felt better too after a little bout of rest and I could totally tell he was all ready to dance the night away. We did our 1st march in to our of our favourite songs: AT LAST (Eva Cassidy’s rendition) and were greeted by the dazzling shimmering silver strings hanging down from the gorgeous array of balloons atop the dry ice. There were TONNES of rose petals tossed onto us and everyone was cheering out loud for us. I felt so loved. I felt so happy.
Dinner commenced earlier than we predicted, which is always a good thing, as everyone jived to the bosa nova tunes played by the band. I enjoyed the double-boiled soup dish quite a big as well as the deep fried wasabi prawns thoroughly before I was reminded to change into my 2nd outfit for the night – a cheongsam (oh damn it!)
My stellar MUA, Juey Huey, was all ready and waiting for me outside the ballroom as the group of us walked back to the suite for the 2nd change. The girlies – Ethel, Cecilia, Sam were busy cam-whoring while I got hair & make up done. I was undecided if I should wear my girdle or body suit beneath the cheong sam since I went through so much effort to tailor one and it was a first time I was donning on one but thankfully all 3 girls said I looked fine without anything beneath and I realized that in the last 2 days I had also lost more weight than I thought. I could fit into the cheongsam without any bulges appearing (phew) and received lots of compliment on the amazing dress. Again I reminded myself how blessed I was to have Candy as met tailor and designer, so perfect that even 1cm of amendment required another fitting. And I must say that after this experience, wearing cheongsams are quite enjoyable. They certainly bring out the curves in a woman.
Just before the 2nd march in, highlights of the morning were shown. I had absolutely no regrets booking & spending to get Yang, our videographer, the day we decided on our wedding date because both of us really enjoyed his artistic flair and “Wong Kai Wai” style of filming. We didn’t want to do the common powerpoint slides displaying our childhood-to-teenage-to-how we met sort of thing and so we thought we would rather invest more in getting a videographer whom we were sure would lived to our expectations. Our guests were amazed at how well filmed and edited the wedding highlights of the morning were and I was a little bummed that I didn’t get to watch it (since I was waiting behind closed doors for the 2nd march-in, duh). But when I eventually did watch it, I teared and kept watching & rewatching. Yang’s work is that good.
“CRAZY LITTLE THING CALLED LOVE” by one of our favourite bands, QUEEN blasted through the ballroom as we did our 2nd and final march-in for the night. The atmosphere remained lighthearted & happy, the way we liked it.
That night heard 3 beautiful speeches & toasts from Luke’s eldest sis, my dearest cousin Sam and aunt Cheryl-Anne . Hearing those beautiful, heartfelt words being spoken brought lots of tears of joy to our hearts. It was one thing to know how much these people loved us, but to hear for ourselves how much they REALLY LOVED us, I was lost for words.
When it was time for us to get on stage to say our thanks, Luke did a speech which made me choked on my tears silently too. He spoke from the heart about how he had planned the proposal, how he felt during the proposal, how blessed he’s been feeling and a bit about his late father, how he wished he was here to witness this gorgeous celebration. Most of the family ended in tears, wishing that my late father-in-law was amongst us yet seeing Luke not being afraid to show his vulnerable side in front of many reaffirmed my trust & faith in marrying such a wonderful man who was okay in being honest with his feelings.
We did away with the traditional yum-seng from table to table as well as the standard photographer of the various tables. Instead, we chose to mingle with our guests at a more personal level. We had people on the dance floor, we thanked several individuals, we toasted with those who wanted to toast all night long.
We were so high on love, laughter, joy, food, music and alcohol that our post-wedding-party at INK bar didn’t even materialize. The groom was too drunk to move an inch more from the bed his friends helped put him on and I was dead beat from a very eventful day.
It was definitely a wedding to remember, one that will keep reliving in my heart for as long as I live and I just wanted to say heartfelt gratitude to my main coordinator – Jas Choo, my BR, for being so calm and helpful, organizing schedules, calling up vendors and doing a memorable hen’s night for me. I remember getting all flustered just days before the wedding and Jas dropped all her meetings just to meet me and calm me down. Kris, whose been a gem of a friend, taking time off to fetch me from place to place despite a very busy schedule too and ending up being very sick that he puked on the morning of my wedding (I feel so utterly bad about this).