I have a penchant of getting my little man new books on a very regular basis, especially since we both enjoy reading time together.
But never did I expect that I’d end up getting some for myself from the parenting department so soon.
I mean, he’s 14 months for crying out loud! Which means at least 10 more months before the infamous terrible twos hit a home run? Yet I found myself walking along the aisle of parenting books in Kino last weekend, determined to leave the bookstore with at least a book that could start me on the right track of good disciplining and tips on raising a confident (which is a fine line away from overconfident) and happy child.
Recent growing up days of the chungkin has been trying and challenging for me in ways I did not anticipate.
Parenting/family blogs have always been a great way for me to get introduced to parenting styles & discipline. Over the years (yes I started reading them even when we were trying to have a kid), I’ve amass some discipline styles that sat well with my (ideal) parenting values but yet when I wanted to get started on them, I just didn’t know how. I mean, how do you get a wailing baby in the supermarket to understand that it is not ideal to get onto the floor and start crawling around and that soon you’ll be back home and he could crawl/cruise all he wanted without easily sounding harsh because your “firm tone” soon runs out of patience for the nth time you’re repeating “stop it! no! no! no!” . And all the “tsk tsk tsk” and (obviously-can’t-manage-your-kid) stares are doing nothing to help cool your frustrated-yet-trying-to-multitask head.
Even with excellent habits of parenting, kids misbehave. And with little chungkin hitting the toddler years, knowing whose heartstrings to tug (often my mom’s!), it was time I started enhancing my understanding of my toddler’s need & expectations, so that I could address it in the best way possible (quite sure there will be tears) when the time comes.
There were just so many titles from so many authors available. I didn’t know which to choose at a glance, plus having a partially-fussy baby in tow who didn’t want to be in a place he could not get down & crawl his way around meant that I had to trust my guts and pick out whichever book that I could hopefully understand and enjoy reading (you know how ‘dry’ some “how to” books can be?).
I did the most logical thing next. I zoomed in on authors I was familiar with, took a huge leap of faith and picked out 2 titles which made me go “ooh!” – top tips for toddler tantrums being one of them.
I’ve not started on them yet (because there’s just so many other books I would rather bury my nose in) but I hope when I do get started on them eventually… I’d have some handy tips to share!