30. The start of a new decade I’ve been looking forward to embrace for a few months now because of the exciting plans in store, and the birthday which I had the insane idea of celebrating in a big way just a month ago (like I did to usher in the 20s)…until I realized that most of the budget was spent on the Bo’s recent 40th instead, which I have no regrets about, and that it would probably be wiser to save up for the upcoming trips instead.
My 30th birthday celebration this year was off to a wonderful start by the lovely people in my life. I felt extremely loved to be celebrated by them, and to be shown how much I meant to them through the efforts made and special touches simply blew me away.
My best birthday present ever, and to come – my mum – was the mastermind of a very amazing surprise party. I’ve always been the one amongst most groups to be throwing the surprise so to be on the receiving end this year was very very…surprising indeed. She gathered my dearest & closest friends & family, staked out, decorated the outdoors in gorgeous hues of pom poms, waited till I stepped in and had the whole bunch running out screaming “SURPRISE!”(my mind went blank for that moment), ordered a delicious tiffany blue ice cream cake on behalf of Liam and sponsored the entire party in addition to my birthday gift . I was speechless to tears. My mum did all that ?!?! How lucky I was!
I also spent the day sleeping in the morning with my 2 boys, and then having an intimate lunch with the queenies at balzac (amazing, amazing, amazing french food and rustic decor – right up my alley) before the little chungkin took ill and was running a temperature.
Through the day awesome mummy-friends also recorded and sent across birthday audios and videos of their kids singing & dancing for me, with one even baking a carrot cake birthday cake (which I missed out big time) to celebrate during our CNY meet-up and sending me a video of them singing the birthday song for me when I couldn’t make it amidst other heartfelt text messages which started to stream in from the stroke of midnight. Again, what did I do to deserve them, to be surrounded with so much love. I was flabbergasted.
So 30, I think we’re off to a great start this decade already.
Considering the 20s were rather remarkable:
Getting drunk and getting excused for it, partied like there’s no tomorrow, getting away with all sorts of fashion trends, being able to ski without breaking any bones, getting my driver’s license, landed my first permanent job, got my first promotion, quit my first job, made awesome friends who are now my best mates, met my husband, got proposed to, travelled to the grand canyon, paris, italy, london, switzerland, japan (3 times), new york, california, san francisco, hong kong, sydney, perth and did things to my heart’s content, went to various Disneyland thrice, got married, got out of my comfort zone doing nature travels, snorkeled, parasailed, took a sabbatical from my career for the first time, attended quite a few powerhouse concerts, became a mum, ran my own business, got sponsored, baked my first rainbow cake…
I reckon the 30s are going to be AMAZING. No more holding back, fewer of those insecurities, growing more confident of myself with each passing day, clearly knowing my objectives & goals, taking on more responsibilities, own a home, pick up new skills, travel more, expand the family if possible, continue being a great wife, mum daughter & friend and not to lose myself completely to motherhood and essentially, be the best version of myself – version 3.0 🙂
I thought this excerpt captured how I feel about the 30s so aptly. Let’s get this decade started.
13 Things That Are Totally Going to Change You in Your 30s
1) You will figure out who YOU really are and why you have gone through so much. You will reflect on your life and find it easier to claim your own path outside of the wishes of your parents, counselors or coaches. You will realize the difference between a mistake, a whim and a calling.
2) You will struggle with how you are going to start building a legacy in this life, versus the fear that you will not make a difference at all. You realize that you want to leave a mark on the world for more than just you — you start living for your children, your community and maybe even the world. And you wonder how you are going to do it. In this decade, you will see your calling more clearly, if you are open.
3) You will find great satisfaction and great frustration with all of the people that you are going to be taking care of (e.g., spouse, children, parents, siblings, friends). You will face many situations that throw you, but you learn how to adjust to life’s changes and those that need you. This will transform you, your time and your relationships.
4) You will feel real, in-your-face, make-you-cry stress about finances, love, career and family. You will start to understand what your parents were talking about all of those years. The good news is that this is the kind of necessary stress that life is made of — and where you find out what you are made of.
5) You will get off balance, on balance, off balance, on balance — and so on — because of all of the roles that you have to carry on the shoulders of your life. You will have to wear many hats, and you will often feel like a tightrope walker trying to stay the course, balancing the people and commitments in your life. This frustration will help you to see that one person can only handle so much and you will start to understand why setting boundaries is so critical.
6) You will feel more meaning in your life and begin to see love, career and family as part of your purpose — instead of part of your obligation. You will realize that with great love, also comes great pain, and you learn that it is worth it. On purpose.
7) You will start coming to terms with the fact that you are not going to live forever as you start losing important people in your life. Mortality becomes a brutal fact of life, and it changes you painfully, for the better.
8) You will see the world differently and embrace things that you would have run away from in your 20s. You will feel a higher sense of well-being, creativity and self-awareness as your experiences widen. I’m talking about values, experiences, goals and opinions that will (*gasp*) change. You will be very surprised by you.
9) You will realize that gathering mass amounts of friends is not as important as paying attention to those who are in your life for a reason, and those who should not be in your life at all. Your fringe friendships will fade, your closest relationships will deepen and some wonderfully surprising people will on-the-floor amaze you.
10) You will have life-changing “a-ha moments” that drastically change the direction of your life for the better. The underrated gift of wisdom comes with age, and you will be thrilled by it.
11) You will not feel as young and carefree as you did in your 20s, but you will learn to love feeling more grounded. As sad as it is to let go of the good ol’ days, you will appreciate being at the Adult Table. The food just tastes better. And you know how to order off of the menu.
12) You will figure out how to align who you truly are on the inside with what you are doing on the outside. You will figure out how to start accepting your limitations and your talents. You move toward making peace with the human experience and focus in on why you are truly here.
13) You will accept your previous struggles as life lessons and gain a greater sense of life purpose. Amen. It’s part of the beautiful game of life. Now play ball.
[source: Huffington Post]